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April 10 Let the games go on.By Joan Chen Wednesday, April 9, 2008; A19 I was born in Shanghai in 1961 and grew up during the Cultural Revolution. During my childhood, I saw my family lose our house. My grandfather, who studied medicine in England, committed suicide after he was wrongly accused of being a counterrevolutionary and a foreign spy. Those were the worst of times. Since the Cultural Revolution ended in the late 1970s, however, I have witnessed unimaginable progress in China. Changes that few ever thought possible have occurred in a single generation. A communist government that had no ties to the West has evolved into a more open government eager to join the international community. A state-controlled economy has morphed into a market economy, greatly raising people's standard of living. It's clear that the majority of the Chinese people enjoy much fuller, more abundant lives today than 30 years ago. Though much remains to be done, the Chinese government has made rapid progress in opening up and trying to be part of the international community. Last month I went to China and spent four weeks visiting Shanghai, Beijing, Hong Kong and Chengdu. The people I met and spoke with are proud and excited about the Beijing Games. They believe that the Olympics are a wonderful opportunity to showcase modern China to the rest of the world. Like many Americans, most Chinese people are disturbed by the recent events in Tibet. But after watching the scenes of violence and arson by the rioters, the Chinese believe that the government is doing the right thing in cracking down to restore order. The Olympic torch is in California and is to be carried through San Francisco today. In a resolution criticizing China, Chris Daly, a member of the San Francisco Board of Supervisors, said that demonstrating against the torch relay would "provide the people of San Francisco with a lifetime opportunity to help 1.3 billion Chinese people gain more freedom and rights." To his credit, Mayor Gavin Newsom did not sign Daly's resolution. This statement could not be further from reality. For one thing, the Chinese are a proud people. They want freedom and greater rights, but they know they must fight for them from within. They know that no one can grant them freedom and rights from afar. The stigma of Western imperialism and the Opium Wars also remains a strong reminder of the past, and Chinese people do not want their domestic policies to be dictated by outside powers. They also do not want the United States to boycott the opening ceremonies of the Games. The U.S. boycott of the 1980 Games in Moscow and the Soviet boycott of the 1984 Olympics in Los Angeles accomplished nothing. A U.S. boycott of the opening ceremonies in Beijing would be counterproductive for relations between the two countries. For decades, anti-China human rights groups in Washington have spent millions of dollars denouncing China. To many Chinese, it seems that this lobby is the only voice that's acceptable or newsworthy in the U.S. media and to the U.S. government. But times are changing. We need to be open-minded and farsighted. We need to make more friends than enemies. Remember what a little ping-pong game did for Sino-U.S. relations in the 1970s? Let's celebrate the Olympics for what the Games are meant to be -- a bridge for friendship, not a playground for politics. February 29 make a wish最近小姐妹们有些热衷于香水,我也买了小样来小试牛刀 一直以来,实验室就有各种各样的香味mix在一起 Ace的过于浓烈,Miss Park的又太夸张 试了免税店里很多香香后,只对两款情有独钟 一个是ANNA SUI的SECRET WISH, 一个是CHANNEL的N19 传说中,时尚魔幻的ANNA SUI能让每一个相信魔法力量的女孩子梦想成真 虽然我已经不再相信魔法了 但是仍然enjoy它带来的神秘和清新的花果香味 同样enjoy Channel N19 的清新感觉 和它追求完美的细致精神 有人说 用好一款香水如同做个好女人 需掌握好分寸,恰到好处,过犹不及 这个晚上,闲来无事,做些功课,把它们记下来 偷偷make a wish, secret wish. February 22 The indecent conducts of celebrities are always put under microscope鲁迅说「吃人的礼教、吃人的社会!」一点都没有错。多少夫妻、亲子出问题,都是外人害的。只是拿石头砸人的,自己真清高吗?人们可以说某某婚前交过哪些亲密的异姓朋友,彷佛稀松平常的事。问题是往深处追,那些亲密代表了什么?表示了什么关系?如果摊在阳光下,那又是怎样的画面?再往下想,如果某日要所有的男女,在作那件事的时候,属于夫妻关系的在屋顶点一盏绿灯,属于情人关系的点一盏红灯。由夜里的星空看下去,会是怎样一片灯海?这灯海里的男女,如果有人自拍的情趣照片被别人偷出来散布,他们就该死、该杀?就是淫乱?至于那些看笑话、满口仁义道德的,又有几人敢发誓,说他从来没点过红灯?
没错!人常有偷窥欲,也幸灾乐祸,爱看别人出糗,只是人毕竟是人,当别人情何以堪的时候,我们能没有哀矜之情吗?用同理心想想,如果这种事发生在我们妻女姐妹身上,怎么办? 使我想起三十年前当电视记者的时候,「友台」一位女主播跟男朋友闹翻了,后者居然把他们作那件事的照片四处寄给新闻圈的人。 我有位同事也拿到了。当时好奇,要他借我看看。那平常满口黄话、一嘴八卦的同事居然没吭气。后来才知道,他早把照片寄回给那受害的女主播。事情很快地平息,虽然各媒体都有照片,但是没半张上报,几乎全部还给了受害人。 我承认我当时没看到,有些失望,甚至怪那同事不够意思。但是后来每次想起,又都佩服「他」,觉得他很「有格」。 也想起张爱玲过世不久,有人拿出长期守在「她」门口,从垃圾桶捡到的东西,其中恐怕有不少私密事可供发表。但只知报载「有人偷张爱玲的东西」,却未见任何媒体将那东西发表。所以我也佩服当时的媒体,觉得他们「有格」。反倒是那些背叛朋友、侵犯隐私、违背职业道德的人,真该被谴责。此后我们还能相信朋友拍照、好友谈心、清洁工收垃圾、水电工装插座、乃至店里修计算机吗?当人与人间失去了信任,才是最大的悲哀。 其实人们的心里都有一把尺。 想想柯林顿的绯闻是怎样曝光的?是陆文斯基在聊天时对一位女同事说的,她信任那女同事,但女同事把事情讲了出去。记得后来有一次电视新闻拍到那位女士,处境惨极了!小柯的绯闻早成往事,那揭发真相的女人,却被大家唾弃。 没错!至今大家还会笑说小柯的那支雪茄烟,猜他是怎么用的,也猜那件陆文斯基蓝洋装上面的印子有多大。假如当时有偷拍的摄影机,也必然拍到一堆所谓的淫照。但令我印象深刻的是,当那阵风暴过去,小柯外出演讲,几乎每一场,大家都起立鼓掌。那掌声是对他非但能撑过风暴,而且处变不惊、治国有方表示佩服,也是对人性表示谅解与宽容。 希望当陈冠希的床照风暴过去,那些「女子」再一次出现的时候,我们这千千万万因为好奇而上网看过、笑过、谈论过,甚至传送过的人,也能给她们掌声。 掌声一半给她们,鼓励她们、支持她们,在遭逢失窃嘲讽与羞辱之后,勇敢地站起来。 掌声一半给自己,因为我们都是人,都有人性的卑劣与崇高。 当幸灾乐祸的卑劣过去,同情悲悯的崇高总会浮现 摘自刘墉 《那点儿事儿》
February 19 学着做个淡然的女人从容随意的女人总是微笑的面对困难,面对环境。她不为平常琐事而计较,不为生活的压力而焦虑,不为现代人的儿女情长的善变而烦恼忧虑。 做个淡然的女人。淡然的女人对工作和事业,努力着,兢兢业业着,足以维持体面,但不忘乎所以。女强人不是她们,因为她们知道,人生需要的是执著,但更重要的还是随缘。 做个淡然的女人。迈过三十岁的人生,开始慢慢步出热烈灿烂的青春季节。岁月不只是刻在女人的脸上,更沉淀在女人的心里。这时的女人精神被一种淡然、从容、柔和的氛围所包围。 做个淡然的女人。远离刻薄和庸俗,明白什么是爱,什么是不爱;什么是属于自已的,什么是不属于自已的。女人活着要有目标,她可以大也可以小,可以崇高也可以平凡,但不能没有。 做个淡然的女人。淡然的女人会在世事的牵累和终日的忙碌中,偷出空闲修饰自已,滋养自已,用自已淡然的心境去呵护那长长的秀发,呈现出来的是清晨阳光般的笑容,端庄的气度,深厚的内涵。 做个淡然的女人。淡然的女人崇尚简单的生活,淡淡的来,淡淡的去。少而又少的出头露面换来的是灵性的清静、对人生对社会的宽容和不苛求,得到的是自已内心的宁静和有条不紊。 做个淡然的女人。淡淡的风,淡淡的云,伴随的是淡淡的梦、淡淡的不再有年少时的无病呻吟。这时的女人更象一杯清荼,“落花无言,人淡如菊”。煎荼闻香,养心颐性。 做个淡然的女人。白日的尘埃落地,灯下的女人会读一点书,修复日渐粗励的灵魂,使自已仍然温婉和悦。爱上一个人,千丝万缕的心事托付给他,温柔宽容的待他,岁月离合,执子之手,生死契阔。 October 30 一起吃苦的幸福我们越来越爱回忆了
是不是因为不敢期待未来呢
你说世界好像天天在倾塌着
只能弯腰低头把梦越做越小了
是该牵手上山看看的
最初动心的窗口有什么景色
不能不哭你就让我把你抱着
少了大的惊喜也要找点小快乐
就算有些事烦恼无助
至少我们有一起吃苦的幸福
每一次当爱走到绝路
往事一幕幕会将我们搂住
虽然有时候际遇起伏 至少我们有一起吃苦的幸福
一个人吹风只有酸楚
两个人吹风不再孤单无助 |
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